Jane and Lee. There's a couple of things. 1. People's sexual habits are quite a small part of their sexuality. There is a history, a culture, a vocabulary all born from oppression which is part of our individual and collective identity as an LGBT community. When you reduce someones identity to sex you objectify them and begin to dehumanise them. It's a common mistake and one that many LGBT people make as well, but try to think of this articles in terms of people's experience rather than their sex lives. 2. There is a common oppressive discourse that gay people (men specifically) are peadophiles. I know you're not suggesting this in your reference to peadophilia but even using the term in the same sentence implies a connection. That is oppressive, if you don't want to offend LGBT people stop referring to peadophiles in any context wen talking about LGBT people. 3. Straight people don't need to come out, everyone presumes your straight, be thankful for this. Coming out is scary and sometimes has a negative result for the person doing the coming out. 4. Getting on with our lives and living and let living is not about ignoring difference, it's about celebrating diversity. So pretending homophobia doesn't exist and 'we are all in it together' is difficult for people that have experienced oppression. Ya'll have a good day now xx