Society intends to push various lies: 1) Everyone that doesn't agree with your choices is "hateful", "fearful"(phobic), or "bigot", which is their favorite invented word. 2) To love, respect or feel empathy one have to accept everyone's choices. 3) That there's no compassion without acceptance. They're wrong, and they know it. No one needs to accept something wrong to be compassionate. No one has to renounce to their own criteria to comply with other people's decisions. I don't need violence or lies to express my point. And certainly, don't need to victimize myself to tell the truth.