1) fully transitioned trans people would be barracked according to who they are. Simple. Army policy for transition - I don't know. 2) If you're a man, you follow the mens requirements, and vice versa. Being trans is no different. 3) Actually, statistically speaking, trans women more often turn out to date women. I guess once you've crossed the gender divide, other divides are almost meaningless. Trans people also tend to date other trans people, presumably because they understand each other's experience more than non-trans people. ... and if a trans woman thought you looked attractive, take it as a compliment mate, just as you would from any woman. It doesn't mean that they're itching to jump down your kegs any more than any other woman is... or, for that matter, any gay guy that might be in the bed next to you. Grow a spine and stop being so insecure.